BLAME

SHORT STORY

Bad Driver (Emotions: Blame/Impatience)

Corbin is on his way to work. He has two ways in which he travels. The short way and the long way. The long way consists of back-roads, stop signs and stop lights. The short way is the
freeway, but it is known to get clogged during his commute. Corbin wakes late, his long trip will make him arrive just in time, his short trip, ten minutes early. He decides to take the freeway. He is driving peaceably on the road when an incompetent driver tailgates an unfortunate car. In rage, Corbin yells out the window at the driver, but his efforts are futile as this event starts a traffic jam.

Corbin arrives ten minutes late to work, his whole ride is filled with curses and complaints about the bad driver. He tells his boss about the incident. His boss does not budge and
explains that Ralph (his neighbor) took the back-roads today and arrived on time. His boss lets him off with a warning. Corbin realizes he blames his problem on the bad driver instead of taking responsibility of his mistake. Suddenly his anger and frustrations fade away.

BLAME
Criticizing a person is blame whereas saying good things about someone is praise. In blame, judgement is used on the basis of morals and that they have been violated. The blamer will
negatively judge in the mindset it makes the seem superior. “Self-Blame” results from taking responsibility for the feelings and actions of someone else and taking on victim symptoms such as helplessness, passiveness, feeling guilty, shame, remorse. Negative thoughts caused by the anxiety of this
self-victimization will ultimately grow into depression, sadness,
pessimistic attitude.

CURE: Blaming takes away value, so give value by using the appropriate praise. Enjoy and embrace someones flaws instead of calling attention to them and be praiseworthy. Tell them about what they are doing morally right is the highest form of praise,
superficial forms of praise are secondary, complimenting hair,
clothes, car, house. Do not blame yourself for other peoples actions or let someone else mistake ruin your day, their error could have happened to anyone else so why drag yourself down.

BLAME (Quotes)
“A man can fail many times, but he isn’t a failure until he begins to blame somebody else.” – John Burroughs

“Blame is just a lazy person’s way of making sense of chaos.” – Doug Coupland

“Don’t blame the messenger because the message is unpleasant.” – Kenneth Starr

“Ego is a social fiction for which one person at a time gets all the blame.” – Robert Anton Wilson

“I envy people who drink – atleast they know what to blame everything on.” – Oscar Levant

“I pay no attention whatever to anybodys praise or blame. I simply follow my own feelings.” – Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart

“I think it’s very important that you make own decision about what you are. Therefore you’re responsible for your actions so you don’t blame other people.” – Prince William

“I think people nowadays do tend to blame their parents for everything.” – Peter Shaffer

“When we blame, we give away our power.” – Greg Anderson

“No one is a failure until they blame somebody else.” – Charles Jones