SELF PITY

SHORT STORY

Emotions: SELF PITY/PARANOIA

Lenny is a lime in a bundle of lemons at a grocery store. He feels as though the world is against him. He always is picked on by the lemons for not being yellow enough and being strange.
Lenny believes them, he feels sorry for himself and think he isn’t even good enough to be picked by a human. Days pass and only lemons are picked further verifying the lemons practices. One day a gorgeous beautiful human stops by the lemon
bundle. Lenny, as usual, feels sorry for himself and start to burrow fearfully within the group of fruits. The gorgeous one puts her hand in, all the finest lemons roll to her, but she grabs deeper. She closes her hand around Lenny and pulls up. Lenny is
terrified of what humans think of them, especially her.

“What a beautiful sweet line, I hate sour lemons so much,” she says.

Lenny is delighted, his destiny is fulfilled. He now realizes all his self pity, fear and doubt in himself was unfounded.

SELF PITY “Feeling sorry for yourself”
Self-pity is the emotion of denying oneself of confidence. Often in this state of mind a person cannot take the current situation as is. A small amount of self-pity is natural as it will
lead to a revelation, growth, acceptance. In severe cases, selfpity
will lead to depression. You can instantly know you are in self pity when you begin to whine and complain about something. Repeating the same horror stories of the past over and over. Self-pity can also be called the negative affirmations of the things which you cannot do or have. (I have no friends, I can’t
dance, no one likes me) So know that you are beating yourself up internally every time you engage in self-pity.

SELF-PITY (Quotes)

“Sympathy is never waisted except when you give it to yourself.” – John W. Roper

“Do not weep; do not wax indignant. Understand.” – Baruch Spinoza

“I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.” – D.H. Lawrence

“Sadness is almost never anything but a form of fatigue.” – Andre Gide

“It is only a step from boredom to disillusionment, which leads naturally to self-pity, which in turn ends in chaos.” – Manly Hall

“Everyone thinks his own burden is heavy.” – French Proverb

“What poison is to food, self-pity is to life.” – Oliver C. Wilson

“Never feel self-pity, the most destructive emotion there is.

How awful to be caught up in the terrible squirrel cage of self.” – Millicent Fenwick

“Of all the infirmities we have, the most savage is to despise our being.” – Michel de Montaigne

“There are few human emotions as warm, comforting and enveloping as self-pity. And nothing is more corrosive and destructive. There is only one answer; turn away from it and move on.” – Dr. Megan Reik

VENGEANCE

VENGEANCE/REVENGE “Getting back at someone”

This is also described as revenge and retaliation. Vengeance is similar to justice and the user of this tactic adds personal actions, often negative, spurred by their judgemental attitude. The cure for vengeance is to remember treat others with love as
how you shoud love yourself. The universe handles all revenge.
CURE: For every vengeful act you make a counter action is sure to come your way, possibly reciprocating “back and forth, back and forth” for extended time. By not acting on the instinct of revenge and forgiving you wage no further risk to yourself. Ego
is the true driver of this emotion. Ask yourself “Are you trying to save face?”

VENGEANCE/REVENGE (Quotes)

“The rarer actions is in virtue than in vengeance.” – William Shakespeare

“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” – Confucius

“Retribution often means that we eventually do to ourselves what we have done onto others.” – Eric Hoffer

“Vengeance has no foresight.” – Napoleon Bonaparte

“One good act of vengeance deserves another.” – John Jefferson

“On wrongs swift vengeance awaits.” – Alexander Pope

“Vengeance is not the point; change is. But the trouble is that in most people’s minds the thought of victory and the thought of punishing the enemy coincide.” – Barbara Deming

“An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” – Mahatma Gandhi

“Revenge is often like biting a dog because the dog bit you.” – Austin O’ Malley

“Vengeance taken will often tear the heart and torment the conscience.” – Arthur Schopenhauer

WORRY

SHORT STORY

Wishing Worries Well (Emotions: Worry)
Bobby is a young man with a perpetual frown. He worried and stressed all day, all night. His mind never relaxed. On a stroll to clear his thoughts he walks by a wishing well. He throws in a quarter. A young girl is standing nearby.

“What are you wishing for?” she says.

“I wish I could live a day without stress. But I have too many worries. It would take a thousand quarters,” Bobby says.

“Then put in a thousand quarters,” says the energetic girl, she is then tugged away by her parents.

In this instance, a light bulb ignites in Bobby’s head. Instead of a wishing well, this will be his “wishing worries well”. Every evening on his daily stress walk he takes a quarter for each worry and drops them in. He has faith that the well will take care
of his problems – then forgets them.
Three months pass and Bobby is standing near the well. The same little girl from before comes to throw in a dime.

“Did your wish come true?” she says. Bobby leans over her smallbframe.

“Yes, I live everyday without stress now. This little well here works. Trust me.”

WORRY

Anticipating a future negative outcome physically or imagined is the emotion of worrying. A small amount of worry is necessary (as a sense) when protecting the self from common dangers. Any lengthening of worry will result in anxiety and
pessimistic attitude. Over-thinking accompanied by bad self-talk that comes with worry will distract you from the problem at hand and cause you to lose focus in reality while you play in your head. This paralyzing worry is of the negative mind-state. When patient thought leads you to plan to take action, worry has not effected your natural mind-state.

CURE: Let go of the problem. Focus on whatever is at hand. Realize it is unnecessary to worry about things that may perhaps happen. Have an optimistic mind-state, knowing you may not be correct about the issue and need more information. But DO focus on whatever you need to do in that exact instance. Be in the moment, stop being attracted to a desired outcome.

WORRY (Quotes)
“Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.” – Benjamin Franklin

“If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep.” – Dale Carnegie

“If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today.” – E. Joseph Cossman

“Worrying is like a rocking chair, it gives you something to do, but it gets you no where.” – Glenn Turner

“If you treat every situation as a life and death matter, you’ll die a lot of times.” – Dean Smith

“A day of worry is more exhausting than a day of work.” – John Lubbock

“Every evening I turn my worries over to God. He’s going to be up all night anyway.” – Mary C. Crowley

“Worry is stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.” – Arthur Somers Roche

“I never worry about action, but only inaction.” – Winston Churchill

“Worry is the interest paid by those who borrow trouble.” – George Washington